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Intuitive Eating Weight Gain Model
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I would like some feedback to see if I'm doing the Self-Coaching model correctly.
Circumstance: I see a picture of myself before starting Intuitive Eating and before having my 2nd child where I'm thinner than I am now.
Thought: I looked better thinner, and Intuitive Eating is causing this weight gain.
Emotion: Doubt, Concern, Unsure
Action: I run down a list of all of the foods I've been giving myself permission to eat now that I've gone down the IE path.
Result: I keep beating myself up when I look at that picture and doubting I'm on the right path.
ANSWER
Hello!
Great work showing up for coaching.
So I can see you are starting with Self-coaching. This is great work so far...
First, the C line has thoughts in it. That's normal because our brain wants to justify itself!
Your C would be: picture of myself before second child
Then I'm thinner than I'm now is a T and goes into your T line.
What's missing in your model is the thought download line. This is where we download all of the thoughts we have about the C.
C: picture of myself before second child
TD:
I'm thinner than I am now.
I looked better thinner.
Intuitive Eating is causing this weight gain.
Then, we need to separate each T into its own model so we can see the impact of each thought.
C: picture of myself before second child
T: I'm thinner than I am now.
E: Which emotion is felt in your body when you think this thought? Doubt / Concern or Unsure?
A's: which actions do you do when you feel this particular E.
R: What result do you create when you do these A's? Remember that your R proves your T right.
Then you do another model for each T from your TD.
I would suggest you do these models and post again in Coach Corner so we can look at it and coach you, so you feel confident in your skills.
This is the most important step of this program! We want you to be successful, so please keep coming back!
Good work, sister!
Circumstance: I see a picture of myself before starting Intuitive Eating and before having my 2nd child where I'm thinner than I am now.
Thought: I looked better thinner, and Intuitive Eating is causing this weight gain.
Emotion: Doubt, Concern, Unsure
Action: I run down a list of all of the foods I've been giving myself permission to eat now that I've gone down the IE path.
Result: I keep beating myself up when I look at that picture and doubting I'm on the right path.
ANSWER
Hello!
Great work showing up for coaching.
So I can see you are starting with Self-coaching. This is great work so far...
First, the C line has thoughts in it. That's normal because our brain wants to justify itself!
Your C would be: picture of myself before second child
Then I'm thinner than I'm now is a T and goes into your T line.
What's missing in your model is the thought download line. This is where we download all of the thoughts we have about the C.
C: picture of myself before second child
TD:
I'm thinner than I am now.
I looked better thinner.
Intuitive Eating is causing this weight gain.
Then, we need to separate each T into its own model so we can see the impact of each thought.
C: picture of myself before second child
T: I'm thinner than I am now.
E: Which emotion is felt in your body when you think this thought? Doubt / Concern or Unsure?
A's: which actions do you do when you feel this particular E.
R: What result do you create when you do these A's? Remember that your R proves your T right.
Then you do another model for each T from your TD.
I would suggest you do these models and post again in Coach Corner so we can look at it and coach you, so you feel confident in your skills.
This is the most important step of this program! We want you to be successful, so please keep coming back!
Good work, sister!
Fatphobia
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I’m having trouble with all of it right now. I’m being extremely judgmental about body size. I don’t like to admit this to you because I don’t want to offend anyone in anyway, however, I have to address my judgment and I don’t know how else to do it. I don’t want to participate in a program that will just make it ok for me to be fat. I know that sounds terrible, but that’s the truth. I want to be free, but I don’t want to be fat and free. That’s the truth of it. Maybe you can help me come to grips with this and maybe you will kick me out. I just need to be truthful about what is going on with me.
ANSWER
Good day! This is a powerful question... and top of mind to most of our members. I wanted to answer this question in depth so we spent 30 minutes of our most recent Live Coaching Call to explain the solution step by step with one of our members.
I use the whiteboard and work through with examples on how to resolve this situation.
Please go to the Recordings page > Collective Coaching Call > November 19, 2020.