Please could you let me know if these models will help me achieve my aim? Thank you.
Unintentional model
C: Eating emotionally
TD: I do it every time, after work. I have to sit down and reward myself with a sugary snack for a job well done. Sometimes I don’t even enjoy the snack. It is just a habit. Why can’t I change the habit?
T: I need a reward after work
F: Anticipation
A: As soon as I get in, I find a sugary snack
R: I eat a sugary snack as a reward
Intentional Model
C: Eating emotionally
T: I need a reward after work
F: Anticipation
A: Yes, I do need a reward, but can I think of something other than a sugary snack? Maybe some essential oils?
R: I reward myself without food. If I am not hungry, using my essential oils, I feel better within myself.
Thank you.
ANSWER
Hello!
Great work showing up… The first place I want to start is the C: Emotional eating. Right now, that’s not neutral for you… based on your model that something is “bad”.
I would suggest using C: Eating after work.
The TD is good, but I think there is more… It almost sounds like a journaling extract than a thought download. Separate each element of opinion in a separate thought. I attempted to do this below. Also, a question is not a thought. Questions typically hide a truth we don’t want to see…
Also, The A line is not comprehensive enough. You need to dig deeper and see all that this emotion creates for yourself. What you do and don’t do as a result of feeling this way.
The R line is not accurate in the 1 model you have submitted. The R proves the T right. Now the R line will be difficult to see if you don’t have an awareness of all the A that your emotions create for you.
Here’s a revised view on your 1 model submitted:
T: I need a reward after work
F: Anticipation
A: As soon as I get in, I find a sugary snack. I eat so fast that I don’t taste the food. The first thing I know is I want more because I never actually enjoy the food, I’m not present in my body, I use food to numb out my exhaustion, I avoid seeing how I really feel about my work, I overthink about everything else that needs to be done now that I’m home, I overthink about how tired i’m, etc….
R: I don’t care for myself; create the need for rewards to fuel an empty tank.
Not sure if this is accurate…
What I suggest you do is to complete a model for each thought in your TD according to the coaching and guidance in CONFIDENT Lesson 2. Go and pull the worksheet and use the helpful questions to help you dig deeper.
Submit these models for coaching.
Figure out the real issue… it’s never food!
T: I do it every time
F:
A:
R:
C: Eating after work.
T: I have to reward myself
F:
A:
R:
C: Eating after work.
T: It has to be sugary food
F:
A:
R:
C: Eating after work.
T: Sometimes I don’t even enjoy it
F:
A:
R:
C: Eating after work.
T: it’s just a habit
F:
A:
R:
C: Eating after work.
T: I can’t change
F:
A:
R:
Unintentional model
C: Eating emotionally
TD: I do it every time, after work. I have to sit down and reward myself with a sugary snack for a job well done. Sometimes I don’t even enjoy the snack. It is just a habit. Why can’t I change the habit?
T: I need a reward after work
F: Anticipation
A: As soon as I get in, I find a sugary snack
R: I eat a sugary snack as a reward
Intentional Model
C: Eating emotionally
T: I need a reward after work
F: Anticipation
A: Yes, I do need a reward, but can I think of something other than a sugary snack? Maybe some essential oils?
R: I reward myself without food. If I am not hungry, using my essential oils, I feel better within myself.
Thank you.
ANSWER
Hello!
Great work showing up… The first place I want to start is the C: Emotional eating. Right now, that’s not neutral for you… based on your model that something is “bad”.
I would suggest using C: Eating after work.
The TD is good, but I think there is more… It almost sounds like a journaling extract than a thought download. Separate each element of opinion in a separate thought. I attempted to do this below. Also, a question is not a thought. Questions typically hide a truth we don’t want to see…
Also, The A line is not comprehensive enough. You need to dig deeper and see all that this emotion creates for yourself. What you do and don’t do as a result of feeling this way.
The R line is not accurate in the 1 model you have submitted. The R proves the T right. Now the R line will be difficult to see if you don’t have an awareness of all the A that your emotions create for you.
Here’s a revised view on your 1 model submitted:
T: I need a reward after work
F: Anticipation
A: As soon as I get in, I find a sugary snack. I eat so fast that I don’t taste the food. The first thing I know is I want more because I never actually enjoy the food, I’m not present in my body, I use food to numb out my exhaustion, I avoid seeing how I really feel about my work, I overthink about everything else that needs to be done now that I’m home, I overthink about how tired i’m, etc….
R: I don’t care for myself; create the need for rewards to fuel an empty tank.
Not sure if this is accurate…
What I suggest you do is to complete a model for each thought in your TD according to the coaching and guidance in CONFIDENT Lesson 2. Go and pull the worksheet and use the helpful questions to help you dig deeper.
Submit these models for coaching.
Figure out the real issue… it’s never food!
T: I do it every time
F:
A:
R:
C: Eating after work.
T: I have to reward myself
F:
A:
R:
C: Eating after work.
T: It has to be sugary food
F:
A:
R:
C: Eating after work.
T: Sometimes I don’t even enjoy it
F:
A:
R:
C: Eating after work.
T: it’s just a habit
F:
A:
R:
C: Eating after work.
T: I can’t change
F:
A:
R: