C: Intuitive Eating
TD: I was an intuitive eater until my mid-30s, and relearning it, I wish I could lose weight while eating intuitively. Sometimes I think of intuitive eating as a free pass to eat whatever I want. It’s hard to see coaches who teach intuitive eating and are skinny. I feel I should be a thin intuitive eating coach.
T: I wish I could lose weight while eating intuitively
F: hopeful
A: I practise intuitive eating like a diet, I stop myself from eating things that satisfy me and then find myself overeating them later.
R: still in diet mentality mode and not really an intuitive eater.
T: I think of intuitive eating as a free pass to eat whatever I want
F: guilty
A: fight that thought, rein in on how I eat, become more controlling, and it becomes a diet. I eat what I think I should eat and then find myself overeating things that I restrict
R: still in diet mentality mode with a focus on weight loss and less on making peace.
T: I should be a thin intuitive eating coach
F: rejected
A: I reject myself as a coach and don’t show up and practice. I fall out of integrity with what I want to help women with
R: I don’t show up as an intuitive eating coach at all
ANSWER
Hello!
Since there is not direct question or request, I will assume that you want coaching on your self-coaching model. If this is incorrect, please let us know and resubmit. I will also coach you on intuitive eating.
The first place to start is on your self-coaching model. Overall this is really good unintentional on self-coaching. You have a lot of thoughts on intuitive eat I will assume you haven’t done LIBERATE yet as it would appear that you also have fatphobic thoughts about body size. I would suggest you explore it separately or wait for you to have access to the body image course.
Based on your thought download, it appears that you are a professional, so you will need to separate your self-coaching about your personal experience with intuitive eating and your coaching abilities as an intuitive eating coach.
I will assume you haven’t completed the PEACEFUL course, which will help you with your understanding of intuitive eating principles. Your personal experience with healing your relationship to food and learning intuitive eating for yourself will be the ground for your professional skills. What you carry for yourself in your belief system will impact your coaching. So I’m not sure if you are in practice now, but I would suggest that you have work to do on yourself prior to coaching others.
Let’s look at your first model…. your C is great. TD is good.
I would watch for thoughts that start with ” I feel….” thoughts are not feelings. When you use I feel… what do you really think and believe? Most often, when we use ” I feel…” or “Sometimes…” we are avoiding see the real thought hiding. So when you say, ” I feel I should be skinny…” get real and honest: Do you have a belief or the thought that you need to be thin to be an intuitive eating coach?
The model is contradictory…
T: I wish I could lose weight while eating intuitively
F: hopeful
A: I practice intuitive eating like a diet. I stop myself from eating things that satisfy me and then find myself overeating them later.
R: still in diet mentality mode and not really an intuitive eater.
Do you believe that intuitive eating is a weight loss diet? Is that why you feel hopeful?
What makes me question the model is that you say you feel hopeful which means you have a desire to lose weight and that you hope that intuitive eating will help you with this goal. But at the same time, you have an action that goes against intuitive eating principles… So it’s either that you have a wrong understanding of IE (you think it’s a weight loss diet) or that you aren’t clear on your true feeling.
Here’s a question that may help you: When you look outside of IE, when you feel hopeful, how do you behave? Do you take action that goes against what you are hopeful for?
The R is this model isn’t 100 accurate. When you think, “I wish I could lose weight,” and you take the A’s, you have listed what you are actually creating is a constant focus on weight loss for yourself.
The second model:
T: I think of intuitive eating as a free pass to eat whatever I want
F: guilty
A: fight that thought, rein in on how I eat, become more controlling, and it becomes a diet. I eat what I think I should eat and then find myself overeating things that I restrict
R: still in diet mentality mode with a focus on weight loss and less on making peace.
You R is actually bringing your T in reality: You eat whatever you want, disregarding the basics principles of intuitive eating (hunger/ fullness and satisfaction cues).
I would suggest that your next step is to get started with PEACEFUL – The Intuitive Eating Project so you can have a clear path to learn intuitive eating and be able to build an intentional model that would be aligned what Intuitive Eating that doesn’t co-opt dieting or diet culture.
If we missed anything or need further help, feel free to submit again.
TD: I was an intuitive eater until my mid-30s, and relearning it, I wish I could lose weight while eating intuitively. Sometimes I think of intuitive eating as a free pass to eat whatever I want. It’s hard to see coaches who teach intuitive eating and are skinny. I feel I should be a thin intuitive eating coach.
T: I wish I could lose weight while eating intuitively
F: hopeful
A: I practise intuitive eating like a diet, I stop myself from eating things that satisfy me and then find myself overeating them later.
R: still in diet mentality mode and not really an intuitive eater.
T: I think of intuitive eating as a free pass to eat whatever I want
F: guilty
A: fight that thought, rein in on how I eat, become more controlling, and it becomes a diet. I eat what I think I should eat and then find myself overeating things that I restrict
R: still in diet mentality mode with a focus on weight loss and less on making peace.
T: I should be a thin intuitive eating coach
F: rejected
A: I reject myself as a coach and don’t show up and practice. I fall out of integrity with what I want to help women with
R: I don’t show up as an intuitive eating coach at all
ANSWER
Hello!
Since there is not direct question or request, I will assume that you want coaching on your self-coaching model. If this is incorrect, please let us know and resubmit. I will also coach you on intuitive eating.
The first place to start is on your self-coaching model. Overall this is really good unintentional on self-coaching. You have a lot of thoughts on intuitive eat I will assume you haven’t done LIBERATE yet as it would appear that you also have fatphobic thoughts about body size. I would suggest you explore it separately or wait for you to have access to the body image course.
Based on your thought download, it appears that you are a professional, so you will need to separate your self-coaching about your personal experience with intuitive eating and your coaching abilities as an intuitive eating coach.
I will assume you haven’t completed the PEACEFUL course, which will help you with your understanding of intuitive eating principles. Your personal experience with healing your relationship to food and learning intuitive eating for yourself will be the ground for your professional skills. What you carry for yourself in your belief system will impact your coaching. So I’m not sure if you are in practice now, but I would suggest that you have work to do on yourself prior to coaching others.
Let’s look at your first model…. your C is great. TD is good.
I would watch for thoughts that start with ” I feel….” thoughts are not feelings. When you use I feel… what do you really think and believe? Most often, when we use ” I feel…” or “Sometimes…” we are avoiding see the real thought hiding. So when you say, ” I feel I should be skinny…” get real and honest: Do you have a belief or the thought that you need to be thin to be an intuitive eating coach?
The model is contradictory…
T: I wish I could lose weight while eating intuitively
F: hopeful
A: I practice intuitive eating like a diet. I stop myself from eating things that satisfy me and then find myself overeating them later.
R: still in diet mentality mode and not really an intuitive eater.
Do you believe that intuitive eating is a weight loss diet? Is that why you feel hopeful?
What makes me question the model is that you say you feel hopeful which means you have a desire to lose weight and that you hope that intuitive eating will help you with this goal. But at the same time, you have an action that goes against intuitive eating principles… So it’s either that you have a wrong understanding of IE (you think it’s a weight loss diet) or that you aren’t clear on your true feeling.
Here’s a question that may help you: When you look outside of IE, when you feel hopeful, how do you behave? Do you take action that goes against what you are hopeful for?
The R is this model isn’t 100 accurate. When you think, “I wish I could lose weight,” and you take the A’s, you have listed what you are actually creating is a constant focus on weight loss for yourself.
The second model:
T: I think of intuitive eating as a free pass to eat whatever I want
F: guilty
A: fight that thought, rein in on how I eat, become more controlling, and it becomes a diet. I eat what I think I should eat and then find myself overeating things that I restrict
R: still in diet mentality mode with a focus on weight loss and less on making peace.
You R is actually bringing your T in reality: You eat whatever you want, disregarding the basics principles of intuitive eating (hunger/ fullness and satisfaction cues).
I would suggest that your next step is to get started with PEACEFUL – The Intuitive Eating Project so you can have a clear path to learn intuitive eating and be able to build an intentional model that would be aligned what Intuitive Eating that doesn’t co-opt dieting or diet culture.
If we missed anything or need further help, feel free to submit again.