There have been a series of events in my life that brought back past memories and reflections that triggered this model.
Unintentional Model:
C: Risk
TD:
I can’t do hard things
I don’t trust myself enough to take risks
I don’t follow up with conviction
I don’t believe in myself
I don’t trust myself
I need people around me
I’m afraid
I’m going to fail
I’m not smart enough
I’m not consistent
I don’t commit to doing something
I don’t succeed
I couldn’t move to a different country
I’m lonely
I don’t have support
I don’t know how to do things alone
I’ve always had my family and my friends with me
I know how to have others solve my life for me
I don’t take risks
I’ve always avoided taking risks
I try to build layers and walls of protection
I need things to be perfect
T: I dislike taking risks that change my life.
E: Defeated, Mistrust, disappointment, hopeless, unhappy, resistant, overwhelmed, worthless, afraid, anxious, frightened, paralyzed, scared, terrified, worried, Regretful, Incapable, trapped, vulnerable, dissatisfied, reluctant, ungrounded, unsure, worried, failure, struggling to survive without what I have today
A: Catastrophizing, avoidance, overthinking, ruminating, distraction, numbing, victimized, perfectionism
R: I’m convinced I’m incapable of taking risks that change my life
Intentional Model:
C: Risk
T: I am able to embrace change
E: Resonant
A: I trust myself to succeed through change, I let go of safety, support myself through periods of change. I learn, I apply, I throw myself onto small risks to learn how to do it, and then onto higher and higher ones. I live a life that I authentically build to be what I want
R: I embrace change
Thought ladder
Desired thought: I embrace change
I’m learning to embrace change
I’m open to believing I embrace change
I can become a person who believes I can embrace change
There are people in the world who embrace change
It is possible that my brain is not reliable when it tells me that I’m incapable of taking risks that change my life
Current thought: I’m convinced I’m incapable of taking risks that change my life
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It definitely feels at this moment like I have to start at the bottom of the ladder, I recognize I have been able to make progress in some ways, but there is so much more I could do if I liberate myself from these thoughts in my TD.
ANSWER
Hello!
This is well done…. I can see that you’re advanced in your self-coaching practice. So with that, I’ll coach you in an advanced level.
I assume you know that in the unintentional portion of your self-coaching you should detail the main 2-3 thoughts individually so you can figure out which main way of thinking creates which emotions, therefore actions in your life.
When I look at your TD is see 3 main thought lines: I can’t do hard things – Failure is bad, and I’m alone and that’s not good. I will let you do this on your own.
If you haven’t yet, I would explore what failure means to you…
In your intentional model:
What does change mean to you? Is it negative, neutral or positive? Your thought I embrace change…. is your brain afraid of change, and you are trying to get your brain to embrace danger? If so, it may never work as your brain is wired to run away from danger, so you may need to neutralize danger first before embracing it.
The emotion of resonant. When you feel resonant, will you take these actions? When I look up resonance it means a form of compassion… the actions that you want to take in my body would require courage, confidence, power, determination that level of emotions. This is totally a personal opinion so take it as a grain of salt.
Added a few words to your thought ladder
Desired thought:
I look forward to the opportunity to change aspects of my life
I embrace change
I’m learning to embrace change
I’m open to believing I CAN embrace change
I can become a person who believes I can embrace change
There are people in the world who embrace change and look forward to it
It is possible that my brain is not reliable when it tells me that I’m incapable of taking risks that change my life
Current thought: I’m convinced I’m incapable of taking risks that change my life
Hope this helps!
Unintentional Model:
C: Risk
TD:
I can’t do hard things
I don’t trust myself enough to take risks
I don’t follow up with conviction
I don’t believe in myself
I don’t trust myself
I need people around me
I’m afraid
I’m going to fail
I’m not smart enough
I’m not consistent
I don’t commit to doing something
I don’t succeed
I couldn’t move to a different country
I’m lonely
I don’t have support
I don’t know how to do things alone
I’ve always had my family and my friends with me
I know how to have others solve my life for me
I don’t take risks
I’ve always avoided taking risks
I try to build layers and walls of protection
I need things to be perfect
T: I dislike taking risks that change my life.
E: Defeated, Mistrust, disappointment, hopeless, unhappy, resistant, overwhelmed, worthless, afraid, anxious, frightened, paralyzed, scared, terrified, worried, Regretful, Incapable, trapped, vulnerable, dissatisfied, reluctant, ungrounded, unsure, worried, failure, struggling to survive without what I have today
A: Catastrophizing, avoidance, overthinking, ruminating, distraction, numbing, victimized, perfectionism
R: I’m convinced I’m incapable of taking risks that change my life
Intentional Model:
C: Risk
T: I am able to embrace change
E: Resonant
A: I trust myself to succeed through change, I let go of safety, support myself through periods of change. I learn, I apply, I throw myself onto small risks to learn how to do it, and then onto higher and higher ones. I live a life that I authentically build to be what I want
R: I embrace change
Thought ladder
Desired thought: I embrace change
I’m learning to embrace change
I’m open to believing I embrace change
I can become a person who believes I can embrace change
There are people in the world who embrace change
It is possible that my brain is not reliable when it tells me that I’m incapable of taking risks that change my life
Current thought: I’m convinced I’m incapable of taking risks that change my life
___
It definitely feels at this moment like I have to start at the bottom of the ladder, I recognize I have been able to make progress in some ways, but there is so much more I could do if I liberate myself from these thoughts in my TD.
ANSWER
Hello!
This is well done…. I can see that you’re advanced in your self-coaching practice. So with that, I’ll coach you in an advanced level.
I assume you know that in the unintentional portion of your self-coaching you should detail the main 2-3 thoughts individually so you can figure out which main way of thinking creates which emotions, therefore actions in your life.
When I look at your TD is see 3 main thought lines: I can’t do hard things – Failure is bad, and I’m alone and that’s not good. I will let you do this on your own.
If you haven’t yet, I would explore what failure means to you…
In your intentional model:
What does change mean to you? Is it negative, neutral or positive? Your thought I embrace change…. is your brain afraid of change, and you are trying to get your brain to embrace danger? If so, it may never work as your brain is wired to run away from danger, so you may need to neutralize danger first before embracing it.
The emotion of resonant. When you feel resonant, will you take these actions? When I look up resonance it means a form of compassion… the actions that you want to take in my body would require courage, confidence, power, determination that level of emotions. This is totally a personal opinion so take it as a grain of salt.
Added a few words to your thought ladder
Desired thought:
I look forward to the opportunity to change aspects of my life
I embrace change
I’m learning to embrace change
I’m open to believing I CAN embrace change
I can become a person who believes I can embrace change
There are people in the world who embrace change and look forward to it
It is possible that my brain is not reliable when it tells me that I’m incapable of taking risks that change my life
Current thought: I’m convinced I’m incapable of taking risks that change my life
Hope this helps!