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Hi! Following the feedback on my experiences of doing the habituation exercise, I have created an intentional model. I’d be grateful to have your thoughts on it.

C: Habituation Exercise
T: When I show up to do the work in C & T, I’m releasing myself from the shackles of diet culture.
F: I feel courageous, I feel authentic
A: I participate in life, I keep routine, I carry out tasks, work, my hobbies, and move.
R: I am present in my life and in my relationships.

It sounds a little woolly, but I think I mean that when I do the exercise and do the work, I come out of my head and into the real world. And while that’s not always perfect, it’s more authentic and grounding?? I get away from just being obsessed by the battle of food and become involved with more interesting, more real things.


Hello sister!

Good work showing for coaching, and you have the right framework; just needs tweaking.

Self-coaching differs greatly from positive thinking in which it requires us to get really specific about the T we are trying to change. The first stage of self-coaching is about the unintentional thinking and identify the T’s and belief about the C that do not gives us the R we desire.

When we move to next stage, which is intentional thinking, we need to get a specific T about the C that will create the 1 F we need to feel in order to produce the A’s that will unfold the R.

When I look at your intentional model, you have 2 T’s and 2 F’s. This tells me you have not yet identify the T that’s causing the problem (unintentional models) so you are bringing this confusion to the intentional models with 2 T’s and therefore 2 F’s.

What are you really afraid of about the habituation process? What’s troubling you? When I go back on your last coaching request, it was about being out of control, not trusting your body, wanting to control your emotions, etc… Yet the current intentional T is about “C&T” as a whole and diet culture. That’s the real problem here!

So you need to go back to your unintentional model and really sit with it and determine the unintentional T you want to work on. To help you with this, I’d suggest going back to Confident Lesson 6 and follow the step-by-step process to build your intentional model in the worksheet “change your thought; Change your life.”

Hope this helps!