I can’t put my finger on exactly what it is that is making me feel down. I feel like being down is the circumstance, but I am trying to experience the feeling to learn more about its message.
Do you have any suggestions for working with this in the context of the program? It is unusual for me not to be “doing” my way out of the feeling.
I am actually okay accepting that this is just where I am at the moment but I am unclear about when I may tip in to a wallowing stage.
ANSWER
This is an excellent advanced question for an advanced student. Let’s do this.
Let’s do some basics first:
We know that emotions are the consequence of our thoughts.
We know that inaction is an action caused by our feeling.
So what you are feeling right now is caused by your thoughts.
We know there’s a C that is neutral that your brain is giving a meaning to. This meaning to the neutral C is your thoughts which then cause the “ feeling of down.”
This “ feeling down” is causing you to have inaction “not working my way out of the feeling.”
With that in mind, we can use the self-coaching model to investigate. I think this is the case of two models running concurrently.
The first one is the model with the C that created the unnamed emotion you describe as feeling down, and the second model is you processing this emotion and judging yourself for “wallowing.”
C: X
T:x,x,x,x
F: X ( feeling down)
A: Wallowing
R:
C: Feeling X ( feeling down)
T: I’m wallowing. It is unusual for me not to be “doing” my way out of the feeling,
I am actually okay accepting that this is just where I am at the moment,
I am unclear about when I may tip into a wallowing stage.
F: Doubt, xoxo,
A:
R:
The first place to start with is identifying the name of the feeling. Go back to your Hoofman list of feelings. Close your eyes and label the sensations, and attached a name to the emotion.
Second, complete the second model…
and then reverse engendered the first model and determine what C it is and complete the model.
I would also suggest you watch the Conquer Emotional Eating workshop (in the vault) and fast forward to the section where Stephanie teaches in more depth about emotions. Stephanie introduces a concept called the Riding the Wave”. It will help you understand what is happening right now.
Good work, sister!
Do you have any suggestions for working with this in the context of the program? It is unusual for me not to be “doing” my way out of the feeling.
I am actually okay accepting that this is just where I am at the moment but I am unclear about when I may tip in to a wallowing stage.
ANSWER
This is an excellent advanced question for an advanced student. Let’s do this.
Let’s do some basics first:
We know that emotions are the consequence of our thoughts.
We know that inaction is an action caused by our feeling.
So what you are feeling right now is caused by your thoughts.
We know there’s a C that is neutral that your brain is giving a meaning to. This meaning to the neutral C is your thoughts which then cause the “ feeling of down.”
This “ feeling down” is causing you to have inaction “not working my way out of the feeling.”
With that in mind, we can use the self-coaching model to investigate. I think this is the case of two models running concurrently.
The first one is the model with the C that created the unnamed emotion you describe as feeling down, and the second model is you processing this emotion and judging yourself for “wallowing.”
C: X
T:x,x,x,x
F: X ( feeling down)
A: Wallowing
R:
C: Feeling X ( feeling down)
T: I’m wallowing. It is unusual for me not to be “doing” my way out of the feeling,
I am actually okay accepting that this is just where I am at the moment,
I am unclear about when I may tip into a wallowing stage.
F: Doubt, xoxo,
A:
R:
The first place to start with is identifying the name of the feeling. Go back to your Hoofman list of feelings. Close your eyes and label the sensations, and attached a name to the emotion.
Second, complete the second model…
and then reverse engendered the first model and determine what C it is and complete the model.
I would also suggest you watch the Conquer Emotional Eating workshop (in the vault) and fast forward to the section where Stephanie teaches in more depth about emotions. Stephanie introduces a concept called the Riding the Wave”. It will help you understand what is happening right now.
Good work, sister!